Thoughts from real life Doms and subs.

Being a Daddy is such a big responsibility, and not every man is strong enough to be a good one. I just wish they would think about what it really means to be a Daddy and have a little before they get into that type of relationship. They need to be strong, patient, nurturing, attentive and affectionate, kind hearted, open, honest, yet still firm. In return they get a babygirl that always looks at him with love in her eyes. A devotion that is unshakeable by any other.
— Jamie Lynn, Kentucky
“How do you take care of a Dom?” ...
There are many posts on taking proper care of your sub, aftercare, taking feelings into account during play...and I realized there were far fewer on how we, as submissives, should care for our Dominants...
Dominants are expected to be strong. We hope they’re strong enough to guide us/ care for us on our journey...such trust there is in a D/s relationship! In power exchange slowly I get to hand over the power I have over myself and my decisions to him. Why? Because he’s worth it. Because I trust him enough to give everything I have/am to him. I watch him, please him, love him...
The first is to remember they are human and have feelings and that BDSM is work. We choose to live in an intense world full of intense dynamics.
Why? It’s worth it.
— Svana.... Fetlife
... As far as what women really want and need, is the kind of man you are. Women have allowed the media tell them to go against their natural instincts. You are truly sweet, kind, ruggedly sexy, (and believe it or not, that IS what all women desire and wish they had...) intelligent, compassionate, and humble. Your no-nonsense attitude has served you well and continues to enlighten those who are unaware.
— bp in Rhode Island
Daddy has on a few occasions called me His rock. While I am honored to be considered this, it has confused me. I have at times understood why....I am supportive of Him and His decisions, He can talk to me about anything without judgment from me, I love all parts/sides of Him, He knows I am loyal, I will always be honest with Him, and any time I give Him advice it is with a neutral and clear perspective. I honestly want Him happy and only the best for Him. He knows this unequivocally.
While I understand these things make for Him seeing me as His rock....I see it a bit differently. I am these things because He is my rock...He has cultivated this desire in me to be these things for Him. Because of who He is I WANT....no wait....NEED to be this for Him. Even more amazing.....it comes naturally. I don’t have to try and be this way. Because He is....I am. It is circular.
— anonymous
Yes, it’s true: I love your attitude of servitude. I love when you ask permission to use the bathroom. I love torturing you for my pleasure. I love using your body as a way to get out the frustration of life. I love giving you chores to do around the house and punishing you when you get an attitude about it. I love the collar you picked out. I love the level of obedience you adhere to. But you know what I love the most? Above all else? Before any of this bdsm lifestyle mumbo jumbo? I love you...more than you can imagine.
Don’t ever think for one second that just because I’m your “Dom” that I’m not your man. Your knight in shining armor. Your friend. Your lover. Your pillar. .
— The FeebleFIle, Phoenix
We all make mistakes, period. We also live in a world where pain is a reality. Trying to fantasize our way through those life’s trials and tribulations is not a recipe for long term success...If she struggles, those struggles are not hers alone to bear ,they are mine to shoulder, to cut the burden of those struggles in half so she isn’t overwhelmed.
— Anonymous
I need a Dom/Domme who...
Sees my beauty, through my flaws, and acknowledges it...
Sees my courage and strengthens it...
Knows my weaknesses and helps me grow through them...
Hears my pains and helps me heal from them...
Feels my joys and shares in them...
Knows when I need Him / Her here with me and makes time to be here physically...
— Irie Essence