"Why is it that when we, or people, talk about this lifestyle it's about sex, roughness, pain, dominate, submissive, kinkiness, punishment, BDSM, multiple partners? Why can't it be a man, woman, respect and love that we, people, discuss?"
Just because men know how to eat and women know how to cook does not mean that making Veal Scaloppini is going to assure a night of passion.
My introduction to the dominant / submissive lifestyle was innocent; a bit nature, a bit nurture. No experienced older woman or anything so trendy. .... Perhaps it was what was then called my ‘bad boy’ persona, which is now referred to as a dominating personality that was the natural attraction between myself and women who were by nature submissive. Perhaps it was my accepting attitude about sex, my objection to the strict religiosity of the Church that allowed seemingly ‘nice girls’ to open up and let out that naughty vamp within. Somehow the dominate man submissive woman dynamic was always present, long before I knew the words that today describe it.